Married =)

It certainly feels like a lifetime since I have written in this spot. Strange how time can be so short and yet so packed with learning and experiences. Strange to be sitting at a keyboard staring at the keys and unsure of what to say. Strange to have done so much and be blank.

Talking about strange things I think one of the strangest things about being married is my relationships with other people. Pre marriage I was very close to my family - especially the female members. I spent a lot of time with female friends. I hung out with families and flatmates. In the build up to the wedding I became completely 'peopled' out and the busier we got the more people were around!

Come post wedding it was like I was in a vacuum and initially it was great! We loved spending time away from the demands of being social and active. We still do. But we need others in to create balance and somehow it was if none (read none as 98% of people, a couple did) of the people who were soo close pre relationship and pre marriage were seeking us out any more. I would make contact and invite people round and then nothing - no reciprocal invites, no attempts to communicate... just... nothing. Weird. It's starting to change now, partly cos I commented on it to a couple of lovely ladies and one chose to act on it, but, well, I wonder. Did I give off vibes? Did people just incorrectly assume we would contact them if we wanted to see them? Did I do this to them when they got married and they just thought well we better return the favour? Weird.